Hello everybody!
This post is going to be a bit different from my previous post. My blog was created to talk about my experience about Mexico, and what I did to move abroad. For me, I didn’t just move to Mexico for fun, or for an adventure, I moved for love. I had been in a long distance relationship for 2.5 years, and I finally decided to move once I graduated college. I had thought that my husband was going to be moving back to the U.S., because that was the original plan, but then the immigration process took forever, and he became established in Mexico, which is okay. I also continued going to school, to accomplish something I had wanted to do since a young age.
The whole 2.5 years of doing long distance, I would visit around every 3 months, and stay for 1-2 weeks at a time. It was very hard, but it is doable when both people in the relationship want it to work. Mexico is a lot different than the U.S. Everything is done so differently. When I first went to Mexico in 2019, I was in shock. It took me a while to get used to the culture there, which I think is normal. I was in denial about Mexico, because I just wanted my husband back where we had begun our relationship. I had such high hopes that we would be together again, living the same way we did before he left. I really thought it was going to work. About 4 months ago I realized that he did not plan on moving, or at least anytime soon. It was always in the back of my head that someday I would need to move to Mexico, because I have heard from so many people that the immigatriton process takes forever, which is true. I wasn’t entirely against the idea ever, but my family and friends did not like the thought of me moving to another country. As cheesy as this sounds, I just wanted to be wherever he was. Of course I was going to miss my life and family back home, but all I wanted was to be with him. Nobody really understood that either, they thought I was just throwing everything I had worked for in the U.S. to follow a man, but in reality I was leaving stuff behind so that I could start my future with the one person I wanted to be with more than anything.
The whole 7 year years of my relationship, I had people critiquing it, judging it, and telling me what they would do if they were in my shoes. And thankfully, I did not listen, because I was able to experience a love that I feel like a lot of people won’t be able to. It was rare. I was able to learn things about myself that I never knew. I really was excited to start a new life In Mexico, even though I was moving there for love. It really is a beautiful country, and I think it has so much potential. The media really does make it seem so horrible, and yes, there are parts where I would not go, but the majority of places are safe and beautiful. If I had the chance to do it all over again, I would move, not just for love, but to help the world see how much potential there is. I really wish things would have ended differently, and I continued living there. But for now, I am back in the states, and I am now trying to figure out what I want.
It was not my decision to move back, or end the relationship. I did everything I could, so that would not have to happen. But, I also learned when somebody wants to be with you, they will do whatever it takes, and unfortunately, that was not the case anymore in my relationship. I was living there 2 weeks, and we both thought all of our problems would be solved just because we would be together, and not doing long distance. I know everything happens for a reason, but this was not supposed to happen like this. I will always appreciate my time spent with him, and I will always cherish our memories. Like I already mentioned, the love we had for each other was rare, and I think to be able to love somebody the way I love him, is special. Thankfully, we ended on good terms, and I truly want whats best for him, and I do want him to be happy. He helped me grow into the person I am today, and I believe that there are a lot of things about me that reflect him, and I think I also helped him become the person he is today.
Please do not hesitate to ask me any questions, I do want to continue sharing the stories about my experience, and I hope someday I get to go back.